The ‘Perfect’ Caregiver Myth in Oakbrook Terrace, IL

Are you trying to find the ‘perfect’ caregiver for your mother? Did you know that there’s no such thing as a perfect caregiver? It’s a myth, but the underlying reasoning behind trying to find that mythological creature is an interesting one, and it’s worth exploring, at least to some degree.

Let’s talk about the reason why some people want to find that perfect home care provider for their loved one. It’s most likely because they are concerned about their health and well-being. When you have an elderly loved one, such as a mother or father, who is having trouble living on their own now, you just want what’s best for them. You don’t want them to have to settle for second best, or just good enough.

But what drives some people to the point of going through one caregiver after another, all in search of that one perfect one? Could it be that they are feeling guilty about something? Maybe these people believe deep down that they should be the one’s providing home care for their loved ones, but they’re not, so they try to find the ideal surrogate.

No one should ever feel guilty, or be made to feel guilty by anyone else, for not providing home care for an elderly loved one. That fallacy needs to be addressed and put to rest as soon as possible. If you still believe that you’re responsible for the well-being of your loved one, then you may need to speak to others who have gone through the same emotions that you are experiencing now, or speak to a mental health counselor who can help you uncover the source of the guilt you’re feeling.

That being set aside, even if you’re not feeling guilty, but just want the best caregiver for your loved one, it’s a good idea to understand that there is no such thing as a perfect caregiver. What is ‘perfect’ for one person might not be adequate for someone else. Sure, there are elements that can make one person more experienced and skilled, one person may have more compassion than someone else, but that’s a matter of personal preference. What would you rather have when it comes to home care providers for your loved one?

When you can answer that, and when you discuss your elderly loved one’s needs with them, then you’ll be able to find the ‘right’ caregiver for them. That would be perfect.